Stop Telling People You Waist Train
I swear, it seems like all the IG baddies, TikTok girlies, iconic YouTubers, and (most) celebrities are waist training. I don’t care if they’re wearing corsets, latex waist trainers, fajas, shapewear, etc… They are training their waist to become or stay smaller! They just don’t talk about it.
Why?
Why Waist Training is So Taboo
Corsets are extremely taboo and waist training is a practice that is no longer “accepted” by society. In this tech-world, information travels very, VERY fast across multiple social media platforms and news outlets, regardless if it’s true or false.
Waist training, namely corsets —which can be considered a fetish or kink— has not been tolerated or welcomed in and by society for a very long time. Mythical reasons include: displacement of organs, difficulty breathing, breaking of bones, and even death!
Oh, and how could I forget the most annoying, played out reason of all: you should love your body just the way it is, it doesn’t need any improvements.
Yawn!!
Telling People You Wear Corsets is a Humiliation Ritual
So, why are you still telling people you waist train?
Do you like being laughed at by 15-year-old girls with naturally slim bodies? Yelled at by older aunties who envy your body goals and discipline? Belittled by men who want you but can’t have you?
Why are you doing that to yourself?!
Keep your waist training hush-hush; nobody has to know!
When You Should Talk About Waist Training
Obviously, if you wear corsets or waist train and don’t care what anyone thinks or says, go for it. And if you are, or want to become, a corset-related content creator, you flaunt that ish:
- You scream at the top of your lungs (or behind a trending sound/song) that you waist train and you’re proud to show your results (or lack thereof due to inconsistency, but hey, at least you’re transparent!).
- You love giving helpful waist training tips, tricks, do’s and don’ts
- You can’t wait to do a new corset unboxing knowing your audience will be as excited as you are
- You want to grow a large community of like-minded people who find body modification (yes, waist training is technically considered bod mod) motivating and inspiring, or even just entertaining
- You don’t care what anyone says because you love waist training and you’re going to keep going no matter what!
But of course, if you’re not said content creator, why bother telling others you waist train?
Why You Shouldn’t Tell Everyone You Waist Train
I mean, if you’re a tech creator, make cooking content, or even post about beauty and fashion, does your audience really have to know that you waist train? Probably not.
If you’re not a content creator, and you just have personal social media, do those people–aka friends and family you barely engage with–have to know? Again, probably not.
I’ve seen creators post on their IG Stories that they wear corsets and how much they love them. And then an hour later another Story acknowledging all the unfollows and DMs they received. And perhaps a screenshot or two of people yelling in their DMs about how awful corsets are and how horrible of a person said creator is.
You know, ugly things that would never be said in person.
Ask Yourself Why You’re Telling People
Is it because you want them to start waist training too?
Maybe you want an accountability partner?
Are you excited about seeing results and want to share this centuries-old technique?
Attention-seeking or trend-hopping?
Seriously think about why you tell people that you waist train, and what good (or bad) it does for you. If you receive nothing but compliments and ego-boosting motivation from your friends and family, exit out of this blog post now. Keep doing what you’re doing.
But, if you get replies like, “You’re so insecure” or “Do you know how bad that is for you?” or “I’m naturally slim, I don’t need that” or “Just lose weight” or my favorite “When are you going to love your body as is?” maybe think about not telling the next person that you wear corsets.
Why I Stopped Talking About Waist Training in Real Life
They’re not going to get it, and they never will.
They won’t understand why you want or “need” a smaller waist, and they’ll do everything they can to make you feel bad about your beauty hobby. I’ve seen a lot of people talk about their experiences with friends or family members who seem bothered when they start looking better than them, instead of cheering them on. It’s a deep-rooted subconscious thing, especially when said friend or family member has no health or body discipline themselves.
In the past, I’ve shared with friends and family that I’ve been wearing corsets to train my waist since 2013. And you know where that’s gotten me? Nowhere! Just into silly arguments about how I “don’t need that” or “That’s bad for your health” or “Are you that insecure?” and “You just want attention from men”.
I stopped sharing my corset waist training journey with people I meet in real life, due to the simple fact that it’s none of their business.
Unless they’re curious and inquire about my small waist. Or start talking about their fitness and eating routines and how they wish their waist was smaller. Or if they actually bring up corsets or waist training as a semi-joke to gauge my reaction.
Then, and only then, will I go into detail about how long I’ve been doing it, and answer questions about my organs, breathing, and bones.
Why I Share My Waist Training Journey Online
“Okay, so you don’t share your waist training journey with family and friends, but yet you post on social media about it? Make it make sense!”
Okay, let’s! There are two main reasons:
Reason Number One:
First of all, I don’t give out my social media to people I know in real life. If they find me and inquire about my posts, I’ll briefly share with them my corset journey and answer any questions they have about waist training. But I always tell them that if they are sincerely interested, to do their own research and look into Lucy Corsetry on YouTube (rather than my YouTube channel, lol).
If someone brings up Instagram or TikTok, I don’t go out of my way to say, “Hey, let’s follow each other!” But if they do, I usually say, “Oh, I don’t have a personal social media account, it’s just a boring business account.”
And if that intrigues them, I downplay it by saying, “Just trying to do that cringey influencer thing. But I don’t want people I know in real life to follow me, because it’s embarrassing and it messes with my engagement and algorithm” and I’ll change the subject.
Usually, they go along with the subject change, but who knows, they might try to find me and not say anything (aka IG Story Stalkers) LOL.
Have you ever noticed that people who don’t know you are more inclined to root for you than those closest to you? I have. It’s a trait that some humans have; and I guess crabs do, too. I’m sure you’ve heard of crab mentality, where when one crab tries to escape the bucket, all the other crabs start pulling it back down. An eye-roll phenomenon, for sure!
Reason Number Two:
Secondly, I share my corset training journey online because I like to help others who are actually interested in waist training. Or they waist train themselves, so it’s like having an online buddy who just gets you. And I’d like to think that my content can assist people who aren’t sure about whether or not waist training is for them. Or maybe answer questions for those who are super interested and just need that final push to get started.
I don’t care (most of the time) what strangers online have to say about me. So posting on social media is no big deal. If a random person online comes across my content, it’s either because I made it to the FYP or was recommended (yay me!), or they actively searched corsets and waist training and came across my posts. And usually, most people who are actively searching for something and then find that something, are not going to leave nasty comments.
And sometimes I like to think that my content can (usually, when I’m actively posting) be some sort of an accountability partner for those who don’t share their waist training journey with others. Because, you know, it’s nice having a buddy who just gets you!
Anyways, if you want to keep telling people you waist train, GO FOR IT. More power to ya! But if all you get is irritating remarks, consider keeping your mouth zipped and stop telling people you waist train.
♡, S